First Person: Real Life In Italy
Each month we introduce you to someone who has made the dream of picking up and moving to the Bel Paese a reality. In their own words they share the good parts, the bad parts and the just plain absurd moments of day-to-day life in Italy.
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ID Card: R.J. Aguila, university student, five months in Italy, 21 years old, nationality
Filipino-American.
Currently living in:
A military base in Aversa, about a 20-minute drive
from Naples.
By way of:
Born in Honolulu, Hawaii=>Putuxet River, Maryland=>Gulfport,
Mississippi=>Okinawa, Japan=>Beaufort, South Carolina=>Okinawa, Japan=>Santa
Cruz, California (whew!)
How (or why) did you get here from there?
I’m a military brat (an affectionate term for children brought up by
parents that happen to work in the military). While I was in college in
Santa Cruz, CA my family moved from Japan to Italy. I decided to move with them to have a chance at experiencing Italy while I finish a degree.
What role did language skills play in your experience?
Language skills were one of my primary reasons for me wanting to come to
Italy. I’d lived in Japan for many years, yet I could only speak very little
Japanese. I didn’t see the value or importance and was a little lazy. I
didn’t make the effort. I really regretted that once I went to college in
Santa Cruz because I met lots of students that adore Japan and try really
hard just so they can live there for a year. So in a way I’m trying to make
up for not taking advantage of improving my language skills in Japan by
coming to Italy. Right now I know basic phrases and can carry a VERY limited
conversation.
Your biggest challenge:
I really want to improve my ability in Italian. Speaking, writing, listening.
One day I would like to be able to read Italian literature. Right now my
main hurdle is just getting out there and putting myself into social
situations where I must speak Italian. It’s very easy just to stay on base,
which is in effect a little American bubble. Many people here do just that —
stay on base most of their time in Italy. I’m planning to volunteer at a
nearby orphanage and also am looking for tutoring opportunities for
students that want to practice or learn English.
What did you do to feel at home or adapt here?
Actually since I spent a lot of time growing up on bases, I feel home on overseas bases much more than I feel at home in the States. I adapted to the Neapolitan driving pretty quickly, even learned stickshift here. Like I mentioned, the bases are in a way small American bubbles, so it’s not hard to feel at “home.” The challenge for me is to step out of the bubble and adapt to that.
What do you still have to get used to/learn?
I still want to keep progressing in my Italian. One thing I noticed is that if I want to do something with a friend, it helps to plan it out. Lots of times an ATM might not be working, or we’ll drive around forever looking for a tabbachi (ed. note: caf?s that sell cigarettes). Not too many 24-hr services.
Compare an aspect of your home town (or other place you’ve lived) to current town.
I love how European cities generally have much better public transport systems than most American cities. One thing I hated about California is the car culture. Having to drive five minutes to get some food. I love how some main streets are blocked off from cars, and you can get around most of the city easily without a car. One of the things I dread is living in my car, in the sense that it’s normal for some people in California to have 1-2 hour commutes. Which I think is crazy! Less hippies here than in Santa Cruz. π I love the idea of everyone going for a Saturday or Sunday night walk.
Latest pursuits:
Finishing a degree in English, practicing Italian with a language buddy I met online, and looking for work as an English language tutor. If I can get the money I’d like to take an immersion course too.
A preconceived notion about Italians/Italy that is true:
The pizza is the best, especially Naples. I love the fashion — we Americans tend to be pretty casual and I think it’s cool how you won’t see too many Italians walking around in a T-shirt and some sweats. Also the constant beauty that surrounds you. From the weather, art and architecture — and especially the women.
Your response to the following question: “I really want to live here, but I don’t speak Italian or have a job. What do you think?”
I would say go for it, but remember that visiting and living in a place are two very different things. Try and find a local that you can email/interview before you make the plunge. Do your homework!
How would you sum up your Italian. experience in a word (and why)?
Invigorating, it’s a challenge for me to get the most out of my time here and I enjoy discovering the pleasant (and sometimes unpleasant) nuances of another culture. To have your first real shot of espresso or to haggle at the local market is something that I’d probably never do if I lived my whole life in a typical American suburb. (Sorry all you suburbanites, I hate the suburbs!!)
Italy’s best kept secret (music, culture, food, way to get round things)
I’m not sure if it’s a secret, but the mozzarella di bufala of
Naples is the best cheese in the world. Insalata caprese is great too.