Italian court rules against ‘la mamma’

Dispelling a popular myth that would have all Italians rightfully smothered by a super-protective mamma, an Italian court awarded custody to a non-worrywart father instead.

Judges of the Court of Cassation, Italy’s highest appeals court, ruled that an apprehensive mother could cause as much damage to her boy as neglect.

“Her overly apprehensive and protective behavior was causing problems in her son,” judges ruled on the appeal of Stefania B. of Florence asking to obtain custody of her now 11-year old child.

The sentence is considered a blow to traditional Italian motherhood, where about two-thirds of young men still find themselves being taken care of by a doting mother at the ripe age of 29.

It also opens the way for a more even division of custody between separated or divorced parents in Italy– currently 87% of children are given over to the mother’s care, according to ISTAT statistics.

Italians are still a long way from hands-off child rearing — the Cassation Court of Bari ruled two days later that a father who had hired a nanny to watch over his two children may not be as ‘fit’ as his former wife to look after them and risks losing custody.

Related resources:
Italy Profiled: Essential Facts on Society, Business and Politics
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Love better than dieting for weight loss, Italian experts say

by Nicole Martinelli
Falling in love is the quickest way to lose weight, according to Italian diet experts. Love as the (diet) drug works because it sets off a reaction that lessens appetite and increases feelings of satiety. The benefits of that many-splendored thing are especially helpful to dieters fighting the over-40 girth wars.

If what the experts (nutritionists, psychologists, food gurus) say is true it’s detrimental to their own livelihood: 80% of people shed pounds if they fall in love and are able to reach their target weight without struggling. The 74 diet professionals polled admitted that following your heart can be just as effective as following a healthy eating plan or exercising and was nearly as effective for men (45%) as for women (55%).

The downside to l’amore as a diet aid is the duration — the so-called ‘cupid effect’ tends to wear off after marriage or, in the most rosy scenario, lasts until the first child is born.

"With passion, a neurochemical wave is activated that is transformed into psycho-physical well-being, " said Alfonso Logoro, neurologist and psychiatrist. "Recent research would confirm that this joy in living lasts from 18 months to three years."

Experts confirm that the unloved are much more likely to take refuge in food (73%), gather dust in front of the TV (65%) or spend too much time gabbing on the phone (61%).

Diet specialists, surveyed in Italian monthly ‘Dimagrire’ (Lose Weight), also noted differences in the way Northern and Southern Italians react to love. Southerners tend to celebrate with food and suffer a slight weight gain when love strikes, while those up north and in central Italy tend to immediately start watching what they eat.

Related resources:
The Mediterranean Diet
Waitress! I’ll have what she’s having…

Web-wise Jan. 16-23

Men’s Fashions from Florence & Milan ? Sophia Loren: Test Your Knowledge? Pompeii’s Painted Rooms on Show

Men’s Fashions from Florence & Milan
So the Prada dress shirts with the hankie pocket on the rear & the pointy bras on otherwise hunky models at Vivienne Westwood probably won’t be big sellers, who said men’s wear had to be functional? Pitti Uomo and Milan’s shows…

http://www.corriere.it/vivimilano/speciali/gallerie/galleria.html?moda/12012003/uomini&1

Sophia Loren: Test Your Knowledge
How much do you know about one of Italy’s most loved divas? Test your knowledge with a crossword puzzle, anagram, rebus & quiz…
www.italica.rai.it/principali/giochi/loren.htm

Pompeii’s Painted Rooms on Show
Take a sneak preview on two of the latest restorations from the ‘painted rooms’. They’ll be on show at the Naples Archeology museum from March 20 in an exhipit entitled, "Pompeii: The Story of and Eruption.
http://arte.tiscali.it/scultura/200301/pompei.html

Italy by Numbers: Mind Your Manners!

75% Italians would follow a modern manners book
Percentage of Italians judge manners ‘important’ in:
95% cleanliness/grooming
83% dining
90% behavior in public
90% with friends/family in private

Italians, in public or private, still care about cutting a good figure. According to a poll of over 1,000 Italians, there is no escaping the rigors of ‘la bella figura’ at home or in the office.

Italy has a long tradition of fretting over comportment, 67% of Italians are aware of the granddaddy of all good-manner manuals from the 1500s by Giovanni della Casa, il Galateo. Two-thirds would also be interested in a updated “Galateo” (the term is still synonymous with etiquette in modern Italian) and only 37% judge manners as altogether unimportant.

Don’t mistake good manners for stiffness, though, since genteel Italians will often appear fatally casual. It’s just another very Italian concept from 16th- century etiquette guide The Courtier, called ‘sprezzatura’ which can be defined as an assumed air of doing difficult things with an effortless mastery and an air of nonchalance.

Related resources:
www.executiveplanet.com/business-etiquette/Italy.html
If you’re going to Italy for pleasure or work, take a look this straighforward free guide on everyday manners in Italy..And get your wrists on the table where they belong!

Sprezzatura: 50 Ways Italian Genius Shaped the World

Love Affair with Italy Gets Bizarre Hollywood Treatment

“Under the Tuscan Sun,” the sentimental story of an American fixing up a villa in one of Italy’s most beautiful regions, just got a movie fix-up.
Touchstone Pictures recently wrapped up the shooting in Cortona of a story which has little in common with the autobiographical tale in the book but sports the well-known title.

Instead of a middle-aged-ish, married humanities professor (Frances Mayes) movie-goers will get a sexy Diane Lane as a single lawyer who finds love with handsome Raoul Bova, the Italian actor best known for a nearly-naked calendar and who also boasts a miniseries credit as St. Francis.
The rolling hills of Cortona sound like the only thing the book and movie have in common, but then again “Under the Tuscan Sun” has practically morphed into a brand-name for an international community who longs to lead the dolce vita in Italy.
In a relatively short time, Mayes has done for Tuscany what Peter Mayle has done for Provence — create an industry catering to would-be expats and armchair travelers . Her 1996 book was a bestseller for two years, translated into 14 languages, spawned a sequel (“Bella Tuscany”), coffee-table photo extravaganza (“In Tuscany”) and a calendar.
“The rhythm of Tuscan dining may throw us off but after a long lunch outside, one concept is clear — siesta,” writes Mayes in her first book about La Toscana. “The logic of a three-hour fall through the crack of the day makes perfect sense. Best to pick up that Piero della Francesca book, wander upstairs and give in to it.”
Right, so it doesn’t make for an action-packed scene, but screenwriter Audrey Wells has also thrown other picturesque Italian locations into the mix including Florence, Positano, Montepulciano, Siena and Rome.
Although set photos from the unofficial site show a perfectly chic Lane trotting about a perfectly lovely Italy, fans of the book are unlikely to accept her as the everywoman heroine of the print version when the movie arrives in US theaters in the autumn of 2003.

Related resources:
www.under-the-tuscan-sun.com
Bits & bobs on the filming, Cortona and Tuscany in general from the unofficial site…

http://digilander.libero.it/raulbova2001
Bova’s sexy calendar — kind of related…

Italians Launch Nepotism: the Game Show

A new game show centers on what could arguably be one of the Italy’s worst faults: nepotism.
“I Raccomandati” (Recommended People) where celebrities root for friends or family members trying to make it into show business, made a strong debut on Italian state broadcaster RAI.
The TV show premiered the same week yet another Italian scientist fled abroad citing ‘rampant nepotism.’ The resulting brain drain has become a ‘national crisis’ said President Ciampi who tried, unsuccessfully, to keep the scientist in question from transferring his expertise elsewhere.
The first episode featured politician Ignazio La Russa promoting a comedian friend, singer Tosca d’Aquino trying to get her mother into the spotlight and showgirl Adriana Volpe with a cousin who does celebrity imitations. Admittedly, even the show’s writer says he received a ‘little push’ from TV host brother-in-law Alberto Castagna to get on board.
Celebs make a case for performers, then viewers vote the winners who, in addition to the prime-time publicity, snag a vacation.

Italians, apparently, don’t mind the entertainment version of this age-old system — ratings for ‘I Raccomandati’ were good, the show came in second after a prime-time movie but beat out the Milan-Chievo soccer game — garnering over six million viewers. .?1999-2008 zoomata.com

Web-wise Jan. 9-16

Tiziano Terzani’s Free e-book• Winter Sales Calendar• Uffizi’s Basement Exhibit • Italian Practice: best in vicious gossip

Tiziano Terzani’s Free e-book
One of Italy’s most renown foreign correspondents (and probably one of the only hacks on the planet to have a fan club) is offering a free download of his antiwar tract that is a bestseller in Europe but that he says he can’t find a publisher for in America or the UK To download use “peace” as the password.
www.tizianoterzani.com/ebook/default.htm

Uffizi’s Basement Exhibit
Due to the success of last year’s exhibit (appropriately entitled ‘mai visti’ or never seen) which displayed over a hundred of the important museum’s paintings that had never been put on, show officials have rattled around in the basement to put together a collection of still lifes. Just makes you wonder what else they’ve got hiding down there…
The rub:
Uffizi, Sala delle Reali Poste, piazzale degli Uffizi.
Tel. 055-6582847. Hours: 10 a.m.-6 p.m. Free. Til Feb. 28

Italian practice: best in vicious gossip
So paparazzo is an Italian word, right? You’d be hard pressed to find more savage gossip and abundance of cheesecake photos than in the Italian tabloid press. Here’s where to get the best/worst of it on the internet.

http://chi.mondadori.com
Fairly tame for the genre, but a great place to start for pop culture.

www.dagospia.com
Journalist Roberto D’agostino reaches some new lows in this spartan but jam-packed gossip site.

www.gossipnews.it
TV stars without makeup! Victoria Silvstedt presents her sexy 2003 calendar in Rome! Celebrity look-alikes! Offers a free newsletter, if you’ve really got to have it.

www.hot.it/canali/gossip
Read about the latest antics of J-lo & other international stars in this younger-target portal…

Winter Sales Calendar
Sales can last from a month to over six weeks, but it’s key to be there when markdowns first start. Here’s where to line up for your Gucci, Fendi or Prada with a discount:
Jan. 7 Florence, Venice, Potenza, Trieste.
Jan. 11 Rome, Milan, Turin, Palermo, Bolzano.
Jan. 17 Bologna
Jan. 20 Naples
Feb. 10 Aosta
For year-round shopping–
Designer Bargains in Italy

Discount outlet database

Italy by Numbers: Breaking the Jealousy Myth

87% Italians call jealousy egocentric or due to insecurity
74% say they’re ‘not at all’ jealous of partner
52% say it often ruins relationships

What, me jealous? Today’s Italians shatter the age-old stereotype of themselves as jealous lovers. According to a recent poll of over 1,000 Italians, the media is responsible for focusing on jealousy and its sometimes extreme consequences, such as extensive coverage of a television journalist killed by her jealous boyfriend in December 2002.
So much for the old Italian saying that ‘love and jealousy were born together’ — only 39% think that a certain amount of paranoia about infidelity ‘spices up’ a relationship. The green-eyed monster, though, is still present in relationships but Italians like to think partners are more jealous than they are — 74% said they are not at all jealous, but think that only 58% of their loved ones are without some lingering suspicion.

Related resources:
Listen to Carlotta sing the woes of jealosy — " ay yay yay yay," is part of the catchy refrain from current Italian pop hit “Gelosia”….
www.carosellorecords.com/asx/gelosia.wax

Finding your jealousy quotient:
Quiz designed by Italians (in English):
www.britishcouncil.it/students/rome/Jealousy_Quiz.htm

Quiz in Italian:
www.tuttotest.com/runtest.asp?id=21

Italian Priest Beats Pinups for Most Popular Calendar

Italians are ringing in the new year with the last calendar penned by undisputed publishing phenomenon Father Mariangelo da Cerqueto — despite the lack of pulchritude his calendar "Frate Indovino" (Brother Fortuneteller) has been a sell out since 1946. The priest died at the age of 87 in November 2002.

The homespun wisdom of Brother Fortuneteller is rooted in daily weather forecasts–the calendar first gained popularity with farmers in Father Mariangelo’s native Perugia in Umbria for the accuracy of predictions made. The secret? The capuchin priest used a manuscript from the 1600s found in monastery archives.
The calendar, which sells between six and eight million copies yearly in Italy and abroad, dispenses pearls of wisdom like: “Since onions produce tears, chop them in moments of political or emotional turmoil” as well as recipes, folklore and proverbs. Sales of the priest’s calendar, which retails for about $3 each, top those of dozens topless calendars glutting newsstands each year.
Income from the Frate Indovino publishing house, which includes books and videos, fund the order’s missionary works.
Although the 2003 edition is the last one written by Father Mariangelo, the publishing house has plans to carry on with the calendars.?1999-2004 zoomata.com

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Related resources:
www.ofmcappuccini.umbria.it/indovino/index.htm
Official site for the Frate Indovino publishing house–and yes, they do e-commerce…

365 Days in Italy Calendar 2003